Some days are simply worse than others. A day can turn especially bad when you just feel as if you’re “not good enough” for anyone or anything. In other words, just “not good enough.” Here are a few things to remember when those feelings come around.

有些日子就是比較難熬。而當你覺得自己“不太配得上”某人或某事時，這一天更是糟糕透頂。也就是說，你覺得自己“不夠好”。那么，當這種情緒來襲時，就請記住下面這些話吧。

 

1. There Really Is More Right With You Than Is Wrong

你身上對的總比錯的多。

Time for a little pep talk here. The truth of the matter is that while it may feel like it, you don’t screw up anymore than anyone else. Cut yourself some slack; you are as human as the rest of us and you need to remember that mistakes are part of life. Time to stop comparing yourself with others and live your best life.

該講些打氣的話了。事實上，盡管有時覺得自己錯得不行，但實際上你并沒有比其他人搞得更砸。放自己一馬吧；你也跟大家一樣只是個普通人而已，請記住：錯誤也是生活的一部分。所以別再拿自己跟別人比較了，努力過好自己的生活吧。

 

2. Accept The “Now” And Move On

接受“現在”，繼續前行。

There is a certain power to accepting the circumstances and having the mind-set to carry on and move forward. Give yourself the gift of forgiving yourself from the mistake made, the stutter, or the stumble. Forgiveness begins at home and you really should accept the situation as a temporary one in order to move forward.

有一種力量可以讓你接受環境，使你擁有繼續前行的心態。原諒自己所犯的錯誤、磕絆或失足吧。發自內心地寬恕自己，相信目前的境遇只是暫時的，你可以繼續前行。

 

3. Be Gentle With Yourself

溫柔對待自己。

Max Ehrmann wrote, “Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.” Gentler, more honest words have ever, ever been written. Psychologists now claim that a shocking secret to success is indeed being kind to yourself. The secret is to value yourself as much as, but no more than, you do others.

馬克斯-厄爾曼寫道：“要溫柔對待自己。你同樹木繁星一樣，也是宇宙之子，你有權利生存在這個世界上。”如此溫柔透徹的句子！心理學家發現，成功的一個驚人秘密就是“溫柔對待自己”。這個秘密就是，你要如同尊重別人一樣尊重自己。

 

4. Focus On Progress Rather Than Perfection

重在進步，而非完美。

People plagued with the ideal of perfectionism, believe it or not, is a stopping point. The attempt to be perfect, rather than driving you forward, is punishing and stops a forward momentum. Instead, focus on progress made in order to continue down the path of success. Certainly it is not easy, and it’s an issue that many struggle with. The fact is, that no one or thing is ever perfect.

不論信與不信，人們多少總覺得完美主義才是終點。對完美的追逐并不能使你前進，反倒會削弱前進的動力。其實，若想取得成功，應該更注重進步。當然這并非易事，很多人都為此不斷努力。現實是，沒有任何人或任何事是完美的。

 

5. Make A Decision To Stop Feeling Terrible

下定決心不再情緒低落。

Shockingly, the decision not to perpetuate negative self-talk can be a boost and a boon to negative self-reflection. It takes the mind-set to believe that you are worthy of the challenge and in so being good enough to work through the situation, whatever it may be. In this way, you empower yourself to continue onward.

令人驚訝的是，不再繼續消極地自言自語的決心，能極大地驅散消極的自我反省。新的心態會讓你相信自己有能力應對挑戰、應付當前情況下的任何工作。這樣，你便賦予了自己繼續前進的力量。

 

6. Stay Positive And Move Forward

保持積極，不斷前進。

This is indeed very difficult. It is so very easy to think only of the negative and stay down in the wicked rut. There really is power in positive thinking. Instead of the woulda-coulda-shoulda, think of the can do and will do. Positive thinking puts power in your mind to act instead of staying stuck mulling over the circumstance or the mistake made.

這個真的很難。人們太容易只想著消極面然后一蹶不振了。積極思維真的充滿了力量。與其不斷假設如何如何，不如想想自己能做什么，然后采取行動。積極的想法讓你充滿能量，不再陷在已經發生的情況或錯誤之中。

 

7. Try A Different Angle

嘗試不同的角度。

Need that passing grade? Or perhaps this is something that simply has to be done and cannot be ignored or move forward from. Maybe it is a task that has to be done, but you feel it is demeaning or degrading. That’s ok. Sometimes changing the way you think of a difficult task may be enough. Or use a different technique for getting the work done.

需要升級？或者遇上了必須得完成、無法回避或跳過的事情？或許這個任務必須得完成，但你卻覺得不太值得。這沒什么。有時只要改變一下你看待困難任務的方式就行了。或者嘗試換個方法搞定工作吧。

 

8. Find A Way To Love Yourself

找到愛自己的方式。

The key to loving yourself is accepting yourself as you are. Of course, this does not mean not attempting to improve yourself. It does mean accepting yourself for who you are, accepting responsibility for the mistake you’ve made, and moving on. It is important not to stop from any one given mistake, but instead to keep going.

愛自己的關鍵是接受本真的自我。當然，這并不意味著停止不前，而是要你接受自己本來的樣子，為所犯的錯誤承擔責任，然后繼續前行。千萬不要因為某個錯誤而擱淺，你應該繼續前進。

 

9. Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

停止拿自己與他人比較。

There can only be one you, warts and all. The truth of the matter is that while we are acutely aware of our mistakes, we rarely see the mistakes of others. We do see their achievements and successes. And unless we live with them, we tend to see others only when they are at their best. No one can be at their best all day, every day. They make mistakes for better or worse, the same as anyone else.

不論優缺點如何，這世上只有一個你。其實，盡管我們很清楚自己的錯誤，卻很少看到別人的——我們只看到他們的成就與成功。而且，除非住在一起，否則我們往往只會看到他們最好的一面。沒有人可以一直處于最佳狀態。每個人都會時不時地犯些錯誤。

 

10. Learn To Appreciate What You Have

學會珍惜已經擁有的。

Certainly you have more than some and less than others. It may help to keep in mind that some people do not have as much as you, even if you only have a little. Get to know someone who has less than you, through volunteering or simply talking with others you may not normally talk to. Practice gratitude by reaching out to the people who have been important in your life.

自然，你所擁有的應該比上不足比下有余。如果你能提醒自己：雖然擁有得很少，但還有人不如自己，或許會樂觀很多。通過參加志愿活動，或跟那些平常不太接觸的人交談，去了解不如自己的人吧。學會感恩，多聯系那些在你生活中非常重要的人。

 

11. The Truth Is, Life Really Isn’t Fair

現實是——生活確實不公平。

And such a cruel truth it is. People who don’t deserve a terminal illness get sick and die. Others have trouble follow them around like an unruly puppy. Unfortunately, there isn’t a whole lot you or anyone else can do about this reality. Get to know others and lean on them when possible. Talk with people who share the same burden to learn how to cope and to help you through life’s tasks.

現實就是這么殘酷。不該患絕癥的人卻病逝，還有些人麻煩總是如影隨形。不幸的是，你或其他任何人對現實都無能為力。但你可以去了解他人，并在必要時依靠他們。和志同道合的人交流，進而學會如何應付生活中的問題。

 

12. Some Things Are Not As They Appear

有些事情并非看到的那樣。

Due to the fact that we are really voyeur’s in other people’s lives, we have no idea how they have accomplished one thing or another. For example, one person may have the required experience for a job, while another had the right connections. The fact is, we do not know and have no way of knowing how a person is maneuvering through his or her life.

人們都很愛窺探別人的生活，但又壓根兒不知道別人是怎樣一次又一次取得成功的。舉個例子，某人或許具備某份工作所要求的經驗，但另一個人卻擁有不錯的人際關系。事實是，我們不知道、也沒有辦法知道別人是如何經營各自生活的。

 

13. Change What You Can And Learn To Accept What Can’t Be Changed

改變自己能夠改變的，接受那些不能改變的。

Take control of areas of your life when you can. A good place to start is how you problem-solve or think about a situation. You can control how a problem is approached and how you will deal with the problem. While nothing can change the past, there are steps you can take toward a brighter future. What are the goals you can begin today toward where you want to be?

在力所能及范圍內經營好自己的生活。如何解決問題或看待某個情形便是不錯的開端。你可以控制問題的出現及其解決辦法。雖然無法改變過去，但你可以采取行動創造一個更美好的未來。今天你可以開始怎樣的目標，進而實現自己的渴求呢？

 

14. Don’t Forget To Get Started

不要忘記開始行動。

It is very easy to simply stop forward momentum and dwell on all that has gone wrong. Make the commitment to change, whatever that change may be. Keep a journal as progress is made. In this way, you can physically see the progress being made. It is always a good thing to break the process into smaller steps while advancing toward a specific goal.

人們很容易停止前進，一味陷在已經錯發的一切。不論改變是什么，請努力做出改變吧。以日記的形式記錄下進步。這樣，你能清晰看到取得的進步。在實施具體目標時，最好把整個過程分成幾個小階段，這樣比較有益。